Is “Alarmed Aloneness” Impacting Your Health?
At the heart of every trauma and life’s painful moments is a seed of “alarmed aloneness”– a term coined by Neuroscience Expert Sarah Peyton.
Peyton uses this term to elevate the understanding that neuroscience research now recognizes that what makes trauma stick is not so much the event itself, but the fact that we weren’t accompanied or supported during or after the event.
These are often unspoken, unrecognized moments of shock and aloneness, sometimes lasting seconds, sometimes months, sometimes years depending on the trauma, relationships involved and the developmental trajectory of one's life.
Can you relate to any of these life moments?
Having someone snap at you and you freeze, unable to respond
Receiving difficult news of any kind: loss of a loved one, being fired…
The shock of receiving a scary, life threatening diagnosis
Being shamed or bullied at school or work
The ongoing aloneness of grieving the loss of a loved one
An unexpected health event, car accident, fall, stroke etc.
Going through bankruptcy or losing your home
Any one of these 10 possible Adverse Childhood Experiences
What is the impact of alarmed aloneness on your health and well being?
These moments send high levels of cortisol into our system and become what researchers refer to as “toxic stress.” Cortisol over time is very harmful to your brain, body and organs. This can lead to anxiety, depression, metabolic exhaustion and other health issues. Read more about “toxic stress” and your health here.
What’s the antidote to alarmed aloneness?
Warm, playful, loving relationships and community are protective of our hearts and contribute to long term health and well being. Having at least one person you can share your fears, concerns and celebrations with AND really feel seen, heard and validated is essential nourishment for our well-being.
If you recognize yourself in the above list of “shock” points, Resonance Healing™ may offer you a way to bring healing to those experiences. No matter how long or how often you have felt alone, you can get the support you need now.
To learn more, book a 30 minute Discovery session here.